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okdude

okdude

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okdude
okdude
M 65 USA
Thank you Rolling Stones (12 by 5 album 1964)for starting a life long appreciation for music.So inspired grew my hair long and got in trouble with Pops for not cutting my hair and lookin' like a girl.Oh, man not even old enough to shave.
on Oct 31, 2017 at 17:31:41
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okdude
okdude
M 65 USA
So far all the reasons to use country block seem to be keep scammers at bay or time constraints.That's a good thing.No one has come forward and said something like I block a certain country because, the people smell and I just feel I'm better than them in every way but,I doubt any one will admit that in a public forum yet,I bet everyone has heard something similar to that in private.
Before I go any further.I would like to state I think it's a bad idea to give anyone anything over the internet.There is just no way you can effectively determine or check to see the person is who they say they are for sure or that their situation is actually as dire as they say.Unless you plan on a surprise visit and are intimate with their situation. It's best to give any help to a reputable charity organization.I don't know if it's an enforceable rule on this site but,if it were ,that seems better than a country block.If the scammers know their not going to get anywhere with their plots then they won't use this site.
Madame' from Britain,you are NOT an awful person.Your reasons of time constraints are certainly viable but, am glad that you recognize that there are probably or possibly bigoted people out there using the country block for that reason.However your solution of "why would you want to talk to a bigot anyway" may not be quite adequate.Bigotry if that is indeed the case is like a cancer.Ignore it and it will just keep growing,Okay,this is not the U.N. we are all here primarily just to find friends but maybe,we're passing up a golden opportunity to make it something more.In fact it might be beneficial in the long run to our own personal interest to open so to speak to those problem countries.Think about how much money and time spent trying to quell the problems by military etc. of those powder keg countries.
If anyone can think of a better way to solve the dilemma please reply.I was voted "Least likely to come up with a good idea"in high school.So,don't look at me for a solution.I would also like to hear from(in forum reply) any of our fine members who,are from a commonly blocked country as to whether they feel insulted and not given a chance to be known.It's ok if your English is a little weak.Thanks all.
okdude
okdude
M 65 USA
Woo-Hoo !four replies to my question'comment.Thanks guys.I guess it's time to stir the pot.LOL Firstly, I'd like to say my comments were not meant as a character assasination of anyone in particular.Only you know for sure what's in your heart.It's more in the line of information gathering/quest in trying maybe to make the world a bit better.The gentleman said he could see if he were gay or a women.He might want to block countries where people were abusive to them.Totally understandable.Good observation.I had not considered that perspective.Since my personal observation has been it is next to impossible to have people change their opinion about well,anything really.That has substance,but would it be better if a gay man or any woman found someone receptive to their words in said country and planted the seeds of their cause.Call me quixotic but nothin' gonna change by ignoring it.
Don't want to go too far off topic but as far as gaugeing whether something is prejudice or not.I don't think it has to necessarily have malice connected with it.Prejudice comes on alot of different levels . I could have never tried french fries in my life just because I didn't think I would like them.It's a silly comparison but just maybe french fries could turn out to be my best friend and the food I like best.Yes it takes work and not for everyone(Sorry dear from Canada you had problems) but as Simi eloquently put it .It's easy to wind up in a "bubble".
I would like to hear from others who are actually using the block extensively.I see some folks who block half the world.Can there really be that many scammers?Maybe I will learn other reasons.Danke Schoen.
okdude
okdude
M 65 USA
Thank you for input Tony.I thought I was going to pose a controversial question and comment that would spark a lot of interest.So,I was going to wait til the end for a final response after a lot of folks posted some comments on it.Since,your are the only to reply.Might as well do that now.Maybe,I should have posted it in the General Apathy department.LOL.
Anyway,I respectfully submit your reply was a bit of a conundrum for me or I should say simply put somewhat puzzling.Perhaps I worded my original question and comments poorly.I understand you would want to converse with those you have more in common with and speak your language more fluently with and,I'm not suggesting they do away with the country exception filter.As,I originally expressed I can see it does have at least one practical use.My concerns are the seemingly widespread use of it.Back to what puzzles me :you response seemed to acknowledge what I was trying to state.You said something like" I may be tarring people with one broad brush."and in your profile you listed prejudice as a big dislike.Then next words in your reply were"So be it"Isn't that a form of prejudice?Maybe not you but my fear is people are using the country exception block to reinforce their own prejudices.
Can all the people from one particular country be scammers or speak terrible English?Also,Why can't you just ignore them or block them or report them to whoever is in control of banning someone from the site.That being said ,I'm new to the site so i don't know how prevalent it is.I may have received one already but I think that was an exception.Anyway,"Rock on "Tony and thanks again for the comments.
okdude
okdude
M 65 USA
Other than a person wanting to learn a specific language and having limited time for all messages from all countries,I can't see a beneficial reason for doing so(blocking countries).I don't want to turn this into a lecture but,it seems to me the beauty(and value) of sites like this is bringing people together from around the world.Learning their point of view and why they might have reason to think that way.Granted certain countries seem to have an abundance of members who have nefarious reasons for joining but, what if there was one guy(or girl) from one country with good intentions.Didn't you just shut him out without hearing his story?In a bigger picture,could this be why so many wars start?You always hear well such and such and such country crossed over a line.Yeah but could something have caused them to do so.Not gonna find out by blocking their converstion.Well,maybe I'm missing something -could be a legitimate reason I overlooked.Please let me hear your opinion all.Thanks
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